Global Leadership Summit Highlights – Day Two

Learning continuously is important for effective leadership in any arena–church, business, non-profits, family, etc.  My wife [her blog on learning and leadership] and I have the privilege the past two days to attend the Willow Creek Global Leadership Summit live stream from Orlando.  Here are some of Day Two highlights. #GLS14

Joseph Grenny @josephgrenny Co-Founder, VitalSmarts, Social Scientist for Business Performance

  • @CTmagazine:  There are only two ways to handle crucial conversations… If you don’t talk it out, you will act it out.
  • Crucial conversations are either a pit or a path to achieving your super awesome goals.

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Wilfred de Jesus @PastorChoco  Senior pastor, New Life covenant Church; TIME’s 100 Most Influential People 2013

@wcagls  “If you’re not going to do anything about the answer, then don’t ask.”

Tyler Perry @tylerperry  Filmmaker, Actor and Philanthropist

@IJM  Great reminder from @tylerperry: People won’t remember what you said or did but will remember how you made them feel.

Louie Giglio @louiegiglio  Pastor, Passion City Church, Founder of the Passion Movement

  •  You don’t have to know every step up the mountain in order to begin the climb.
  • Life is short; we must feel urgency about the great things God has for us.  The stakes are too high to die with a small vision.
  • What is it that God wants us to conquer?  How do you want your life to count?
  • Life is short; God is big; Take the next step.

What has been one of your takeaways from the Summit?  What is your next step?

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Global Leadership Summit Highlights-Day One

Here are some of the days top quotes, tweets and pictures that capture a few of the highlights from Day One of the Global Leadership Summit at Willow Creek. #GLS14

Bill Hybels @BillHybels  Founder and Senior Pastor, Willow Creek Community Church

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  • Everyone wins when a leader gets better.
  • People are more important than the vision.  Don’t make people pay because you are so fired up about your vision.
  • All leadership is intensely spiritual.
  • Great leadership is relentlessly developmental.
  • Find and develop leaders who are “owners”, not “hirelings”.

Picture credit: 15 Essential Quotes by Bill Hybels from the summit at

Carly Fiorina @CarlyFiorina  Former CEO of Hewlett-Packard, Chairman of Good 360

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Photo Credit: Willow Creek @wagls

Susan Cain  @susancain  Best-selling Author, Viral TED speaker on the The Power of Introverts

  • @wcagls  “Harness the power of introverts as well as extroverts.”
  • @Leadership_Jnl: “We need to invite the small, still voice back into our organizations.”

Patrick Lencioni @patricklencioni  Best-selling Author, Founder and President of The Table Group

  • Tweet by @Leadership Journal: “I’m tired of hearing about servant leadership. Why? Because there isn’t any other kind.”  @patricklencioni
  • Tweet by @willmancini: “A true leader sacrifices themselves for well-being of others w/o a guarantee of a ROI.”  @patricklencioni
  • Tweet by @bradbridges: “3 most dangerous mistakes leaders make: 1- Becoming a leader for the wrong reason. 2- Failing to embrace vulnerability. 3- Making leadership too important.”  @patricklencioni

What was your favorite tweet of the day?

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29 years and counting!

Steve Morgan:

Celebrated 29 years of marriage yesterday. My wife, Terry wrote a beautiful blog about the reality of that. She writes with authenticity and warmth. You will enjoy this and following her blog on learning and leadership.

Originally posted on maturitas cafe:




What a great way to celebrate a 29 year anniversary! It was a beautiful, relaxed afternoon on a gorgeous, almost-empty beach. A real treat…

Not all our anniversary days have been this pleasant. The wind, sand, and sun help describe our 29 years of marriage:


When the winds are in your face, you have to work harder at whatever you need to do. The winds of life are the challenges, the stretching times, the growth areas, the new endeavors, the learning curves. Through the years, Steve and I have learned hard truths about ourselves and each other. Some times this required grace, other times forgiveness. We struggled with trials beyond our capacity as parents and as professionals, and we often had to lean on each other. Even when we were learning something good, it was often exhausting or stressful or hard. I am grateful for a husband who is a…

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12 “Nails” that Deplete the Heart

I came out of an appointment some time ago and saw the light on my dashboard. It indicated that my tire had low pressure–it was depleted.  I was able to make it to a garage where they removed a nail, patched up the tire and filled it up with oxygen…and I was back on the road again! deplete w words In leadership, there are many “nails”and sharp objects that let the air out of us. These nails have the danger of depleting our hearts and making us less effective in life and leadership.

Here are some of “nails” that can deplete my heart: (adapted from some of our work on in “heart”).

The pressures of an endless to-do list.

Felt or perceived expectations.

Wanting to please people.

The intoxicating allure of fame, success or comparision.

Allowing the work/ministry to become my source of life.

Unconfessed sin. Unforgiveness.

Unresolved broken relationships.

Drivenness that refuses the rhythm of rest.

Grasping for personal power, authority, and glory.

Self-protective strategies that keep me from living in authentic community.

Failure to keep boundaries that allow for healthy living and exercise.

Living by the urgent.

What “nails” deplete your heart?

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The 7 Habits of Highly Ineffective People

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My sons and I like to have fun and talk goofy at times, as anyone knows who has heard me answer my phone when one of them calls.  We talk about serious issues too, like leadership, ethics, business, coaching, God, and we can philosophize at length.  A couple of nights ago, my son, who I call “The Colonel”, called. He is reading The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey.  After listening to him enthusiastically share what he has been learning from the book, we decided it would be fun to flip things a bit and talk about the opposites:

The 7  Habits of Highly Ineffective People

The first three habits deal more with private ineffectiveness. But, rest assured that before long, that character base will flow over into public futility.

Here is our list…

Be reactive.

Go with the flow and allow yourself and mood to be determined by circumstances.  Let your behavior be a function of conditions, not your decisions. Do not take initiative and don’t take any responsibility.  Learn to say things like, “That’s just the way I am”, or “I can’t”, or “There’s nothing I can do”. After getting good at this habit, you might ramp it up to a whole new level by blaming others for your current circumstances.  Add a victim mentality and you are well on your way to personal and public ineffectiveness and mediocre living.


Live the downside of “You Only Live Once”. Don’t ever develop a clear understanding of your destination or think about where you want your life to go, what you value, or the kind of legacy you want to leave behind.  Developing a personal mission statement is way out of bounds for the ineffective person. Have no guiding principles to center your life. Do whatever feels good in the moment.  If you feel like “straightening deck chairs on the Titanic”, do it.  At least you will feel good as you sink to your death.

Live by the urgent.

Organize and execute your life around crisis and pressing problems. Just respond to the urgent. Don’t ever contemplate about your three priorities for the day. Besides being ineffective, you will also experience the added benefits of stress, burnout, crisis management, and the feeling of always putting out fires. I bet you can also feel the adrenaline rush of that!  Keep it up so you can maintain the energy from one urgent crisis to the next.

Once you have these three private habits of ineffectiveness down, you can successfully be ineffective with other people. That’s what these next three habits are about.

Think “Me first”.

Learn to become a transactional leader—only give out what you get. “Tit for tat”. But make sure you get yours first. Work on developing your scarcity mentality that says there is only so much good (recognition, credit, power, profit, love, etc.) to go around.  Make sure you grab your share before all the greedy people get it. Don’t be genuinely happy for the successes of others.

Speak more than you listen.

Ineffective people have things to say and points to make.  People need your wisdom whether they realize it or not. So make sure to launch into stories and lectures.  Repeat yourself and make sure you get your point across first.  Seek first to be understood-that way you model what being understood feels like for the other people.  If there is time left over, listen to others while multitasking on your smart phone. As you listen, evaluate the other person, interrupt with questions from your own frame of reference, diagnose quickly, give advice, and try to interpret and judge motives rapidly. This will help fix the other person sooner and save you valuable time to talk more.

Don’t cooperate. Don’t collaborate. 

Think discord, disunity, detached, disconnect, division. It can waste so much time to work in team.  Besides if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself. Don’t concern yourself with unused and untapped potential. Synergy is highly overrated and takes too much time.  If you have developed habits of distrust, poor listening, and lack of self-awareness, people may already leave you alone, so cooperation and teamwork may not even be an issue.


Don’t develop new skills or ever take time to rest, play, recharge, or refresh.  Other people will pass you by if you do. Ineffective people don’t have enough time to exercise for endurance, flexibility, or strength. They are good at neglecting the spiritual dimension of life.  Personal security comes from performance, so they must perform all the time.  That leaves little time for reflection, evaluation, feedback, and learning.

If you can commit yourself to doing these habits unconsciously, you are well on your way to being ineffective in your personal life, in your relationships (if you have any), in your leadership, and in your work.

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What makes you ineffective? 

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