want to be a good coach?

I just finished reading The COACH Model by Keith Webb in preparation for a three day coaching workshop training. Terry wrote a great summary of the book on her blog.

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Keith Webb's "The Coach Model"

Coaching values the coachee’s past experience, honors their knowledge and
decision-making skills, and fosters their ownership of chosen action steps. 

Keith Webb’s, The Coach Model, offers an excellent process that helps me to focus on coaching rather than talking, and enables me to help the person I’m coaching discover solutions for themselves.. You’ll notice that Webb’s five process steps spell COACH so that it easy for to remember. Here is a quick summary of how it works:

CONNECT — How are you?

A good coach begins the conversation catching up on anything that has been going on since their last time together. This “small talk” helps to build relationship trust and ensures there is no major distraction going on that might sabotage the discussion that day.  An especially difficult situation may require rescheduling the appointment or simply acknowledging the trial may lessen the pressure enough to continue with the…

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Dilbert on 360 Review Feedback

Every week brings news of tragedy, heartbreak, loss, racial tensions, frustrations with poor leadership, all reminding us of the obvious:

this world is broken and in need of healing.

To be honest, it can be overwhelming, paralyzing, and hopeless to feel so out of control. It is true there are so many things I would like to change; many are out of my control. However, I can control me.

I can begin to make the world a little better by starting with me.

Last week I got feedback on how I can improve my life and leadership, to leave a better wake behind me. I used a simple tool called the 360-degree review. It was nothing like the Dilbert cartoon:


If you have never done a real 360-degree review, I highly suggest it.

Anyone can initiate a 360-degree review. 

My 360 gave me helpful feedback on my strengths and areas for growth. It was like a snapshot based on observed feedback from my supervisor and peers, so I did not feel judged.  I know it doe not tell the whole story about me, as people can’t see my thoughts, motivations or intentions, but the feedback was valid and helpful.

My 360 Review Feedback had two simple objectives:

  1. Identify
    • Clear Strengths
    • Hidden Strengths
    • Developmental Needs
    • Blind Spots
  2. Inform my Personal Development Plan.  From my personalized feedback, I am in the process of designing a development plan that will help me move my life and leadership forward in positive ways.

Now, it’s your turn…The process is simple:

  1. Go to new.Global360Review.com
  2. Create your account. It’s free and secure.
  3. Verify your account.
  4. Click on “Initiate a Review”.

Once into the site, you can choose the type of review. (The 360 Lite is 5 questions and helpful for anyone-try that one out this year!  The Leadership 360 is useful for a team leader or organizational leader at any level); you can choose your reviewers and the person who you want to give you your feedback results. If you have any questions, let me know. Only you and the person you choose to give feedback will see your results. I would love to hear about your experience if you do a 360 Review, so please return and leave a comment.


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What’s love got to do with it?

Loving deeply requires unhurried living! This is another awesome post by Terry Morgan from her blog. It fits so well in my leadership themes. Love is not mushy sentimentality; rather it is missionally strategic! More to come on this topic…

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We are in the “love month” – a perfect opportunity to talk about how love and unhurried living intersect. What does love have to do with unhurried living? E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G.

Love has everything to do with unhurried living.

Our ability to love others well requires unhurried living. We demonstrate love through thoughtful intentionality, quality time, patience, focused attention, engaged listening, perseverance, and undistracted presence… all of which require a lack of hurry.

I do not love well when I hurry.

Some of the things I try to do to unhurry my time with others:

  • remember people are valuable
  • put my phone facedown and lock eyes with the person
  • ignore the to-do list in my head
  • breathe deeply and be present
  • remember all those times when someone took time to listen to me
  • stop multi-tasking or invite the person (child) to help
  • relax and enjoy the time together
  • If I am truly unavailable…

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Where is your white space?

Living Well requires WHITE SPACE! I have been thinking about a question I have heard a couple of times the past week: What is your ideal week? Of course, my ideal week would include white space time to think and reflect, EXAMEN my day, my interactions with people/coworkers and where I saw God; it would include some exercise and some reading. Maybe these are some of the big rocks that I need to put in the jar first! Then the smaller pebbles and sand can fill in the rest. Here is some good encouragement to reflect on getting more white space in your life.

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Henry Cloud is one of my favorite teachers and authors. I began reading his books many years ago, and I now grab every new one he publishes as soon as it comes out. I have written a few summaries of his books on this blog (see links below). Now that I think about it, I may write some more this year!

Recently, I read a shortpost by Henry Cloud on the Global Leadership Summit (GLS) blog (which is a great blog, by the way!). Henry was talking about the importance of having WHITE SPACE (or rest) in our life.

too much stuff + too long = overwhelmed and tired brain

Henry was endorsing the valuable research and work done by a woman named Juliet Funt. Juliet spoke at the GLS, and you can find some excellent short video clips of her ideas on…

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Five Gifts You Don’t Want to Live Without

The National Retail Federation estimates more than 164 million people plan to shop during Black Friday weekend and Cyber Monday! (In years past, we have spent an average of $423 each for a total of $59.1 billion.)

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How long do you think those purchases will last? Toys–last maybe 30 days; clothes–one season; electronic gadgets—approximately one to three years.

One leader hoped for gifts that brought a greater sense of lasting satisfaction to our lives. Here are the five gifts he knew we could not really live without:

Work that matters, growing character and satisfying relationships. The leader used a metaphor to describe these as “good fruit of every kind”. Satisfying and productive work matters to your well being, to others and makes a difference in the world.  Growth in our character means we are becoming the kind of people we truly desire to be. Healthy relationships with our spouses, family, and team members brings deep satisfaction to our lives. To produce good fruit in these important areas of your life we may need to prune, fertilize, pull some weeds, dig or protect from harmful intruders, etc. What do you need to do to get that slight edge for a fruitful yield this year?

Knowing God better.  Leaders and students I have engaged around the world from many different cultures say they desire to know God better. Perhaps this describes you as well. No matter where you are in your journey, the next step is up to you this year. Do you want to know God personally?  Are you beginning with God? Do you want to develop a more solid foundation? Desire to train and grow? There are many resources for you wherever you are in your journey.

Endurance and patience.  Life is full of setbacks and obstacles. Sometimes I need patience when others grate on my nerves; other times I need patience in the midst of trying circumstances. We all need endurance, and that often requires harnessing the power of rest or including a better rhythm of rest in your life.

A life filled with joy. A Google search for joy during the holiday, revealed this on the first link:  “Feeling down during the holidays can be tough, especially since you seem so out of step with the world. Everyone else seems to be beaming, ruddy-cheeked, bursting with holiday spirit. You’re feeling wretched and exhausted. But here’s something to cheer you up the next time you’re stuck in a room of revelers at a holiday party: Plenty of them are probably unhappy, too.” (www.webmd.com). The article normalizes hard times, but somehow just knowing that others are miserable does not cheer me up.  Wouldn’t it be awesome to have not only holidays but a life characterized by joy?  What will that take for you?

A thankful heart.  The scientific research on the transforming power of gratitude is fascinating: A thankful heart changes us, transforms our relationships and helps us be more productive at work. You will also boost your resilience with gratitude.

What would your life be like with more of these gifts?  The leader who wanted these for his people was Paul, the Apostle. He described them here: (Colossians 1:9-12).

Which one of the above gifts will help you really live this year? What do you need to do now to take a first step?

(Note: This post was updated and revised from a previously published post entitled “5 Great Gifts”.)

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