What keeps me from asking questions? Sometimes I am just in a hurry and it is easier to tell someone what to do. At times, there is something in my identity: I would prefer to be seen as the answer man rather than a discovery guide. More deeply, the lack of asking can be rooted in certain character qualities. The six qualities of an incarnational leader that Terry mentions have helped me be a better question-asker and a more humble leader.
As promised in my earlier blog, here are six abilities that we can develop in order to develop an incarnational model of leadership. These abilities come from Duane Elmer’s book, Cross-Cultural Servanthood: Serving the World in Christlike Humility.
1. OPENNESS includes getting “out” and involved where people live and also inviting people “in” to my home and life = hospitality. Hospitality has the same root as hospital, two Greek words meaning “loving + the stranger.” It evolved to mean connecting with strangers in a place of healing. True hospitality receives others openly, warmly, freely without any need to prove anything. Hospitality creates an atmosphere of safety and security so that deep, meaningful conversations can take place. An interesting twist to consider is that we sometimes honor others most by receiving from them rather than by trying to give to them.
2. ACCEPTANCE is the ability to communicate value…
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