Do you every wish you could have a do-over? I have, many times. For example, I have wished I could start the conversation differently with my wife in a way that validated her feelings instead of going on the defensive.
In golf, a do-over is called a mulligan. I know a real golfer does not take a mulligan, but I am not a real golfer, and for me and the guys I golf with every two or three years, we need all the help we can get!
Remember Marty McFly in Back to the Future who travels in time to tell his older self some beneficial advice? In a recent leadership conversation with Dr. Henry Cloud, Dan Rockwell asked this question: If you could go back in time and give yourself any advice that would help you in the future, what would you tell your younger self?
Dr. Cloud shares a couple of ideas of insightful advice, and I add a third from my own experience:
Three Things I Would Tell My Younger Self:
1. I believe in you. You have what it takes. You can do it! We all need to hear this. I have always tried to communicate this to my kids as well.
2. It will be harder than you think. The reality is that whatever you set out to do, it is going to take a lot of hard work. You will need perseverance to push through when the going gets tough. Ringo Starr was right: It Don’t Come Easy.
3. It will take longer than you think. Most men are challenged at realistically estimating time for projects. In general, we underestimate by approximately one-third! Whenever I begin a project I think will only take 15 minutes, I plan on 45 minutes to an hour! So, start early. Start now. Be consistent. Sometimes the difference between greatness and mediocrity is only 15 minutes a day! (Or is that really 45 minutes?)
In real life, there are no do-overs, but we can improve our future. You and Marty McFly have arrived at a point in time, but this is not your final destination. If you allow these three nuggets of advice to penetrate your heart, and add the R.I.S.E. Diet that includes the four essential food groups for leaders, you can hope to arrive at an even more satisfying future!
Which of the three truths do you need to hear?
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